Perspective

Saddleback Mountain, photo by Rachel Whitt

Here is my perspective:  grieving is not something to be avoided.  It is normal and healthy.  It is not fun, but after a good cry I feel a sense of relief.  

This is heresy to all the people who avoid "negativity."  That is to say, most everybody I know. So when we experience loss, in addition to the pain of the loss, we have the pain of all the people deflecting or minimizing or avoiding our grief.  And maybe avoiding us too.

What if we changed our perspective, and recognized grief as something sacred and beautiful.  After all, we grieve what we value and love.  Our grief honors that value and love. And our grief also helps us begin to process a loss as our rational minds really can't do.